Wednesday, August 06, 2008

A Note To Family Members Regarding RSVPs

It is completely acceptable to have one person call and RSVP for several people. However, when there is a number AND an email address on the invitation instructing you as to which of the hosts will be able to accept your response, mentioning in passing to the other host (who lives in another state, and is not set up to handle replies) that you will be attending an event with two other people really does not count as a reply.

Especially when you would TOTALLY never let someone hear the end of it if someone did that to you.

This is almost worse than not replying at all.


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Please note that this is for a large party, and this is extended family. This was not my mom mentioning something to my sister. And either way, it comes from someone who has been known to make up "etiquette" and then hold failures to conform to the made-up rules against people, sometimes, seriously, for years.

8 comments:

Vika said...

I wonder who that might have been....

Witty said...

Just as a hypothetical...If the person in question treated you to dinner, I'm thinking they would have expected a thank you call by no later than 11AM the next day, right? So it's now 24 hours 50 minutes later, and I haven't gotten a call. Should I re-write the will? ;)

Kate said...

Ah, but you forget. The rules get rewritten in both directions to fit whatever The Person In Question wants to do.

And then new rules get made up to hold against people who have done nothing wrong.

Witty said...

I think I suddenly realize why I've always been fascinated by Alice in Wonderland Through the Looking Glass. If you merge the Queen of Hearts with the Red Queen...

College Glassblower said...

ok, are we talking about who i think we are? gives people just the creamer?

Kate said...

Who else could it possibly be?

Witty said...

PS - Still haven't gotten a call or a note...

College Glassblower said...

um, i don't know... i just figured i would make sure! we have... interesting family members, so it's a legit question...